tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-175959032008-11-21T18:59:27.948-05:00insightful & inspiring reflections & resources brought to you by richard jones (rj)iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.comBlogger1041251725288http://www.feedburner.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-64805294707390784122008-11-21T00:30:00.021-05:002008-11-21T17:17:45.753-05:002008-11-21T17:17:45.753-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0A person who doesn’t have time for a relationship ought not to get involved in one. Yet, there are countless individuals who enter relationships expecting their partners to constantly wait around for...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/461054524" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/make-time-to-make-most-of-love.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-37156611308591850422008-11-20T15:56:00.002-05:002008-11-21T16:38:37.395-05:002008-11-21T16:38:37.395-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com2There may be a time and place for everything, but sometimes there’s simply no place for certain things. In a loving relationship, for example, there is no place for unloving behavior. Do not court...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/460019034" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/10-commandments-of-domestic-violence.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-59635747416862890052008-11-20T02:49:00.001-05:002008-11-20T02:51:54.357-05:002008-11-20T02:51:54.357-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0We cannot be much of anything until love is everything to us. iAMrj * richard jones<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/459320994" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/whats-love-got-to-do-with-it.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-13736347988874793932008-11-17T17:39:00.001-05:002008-11-17T17:40:34.685-05:002008-11-17T17:40:34.685-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0A relationship stands a chance to be all it can be when both partners are giving it all they’ve got. However, when one partner is “doing all the work,” it often turns out that their labor is in...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/456499340" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/they-that-work-together-stay-together.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-33711221931257248122008-11-16T00:22:00.001-05:002008-11-17T14:49:10.743-05:002008-11-17T14:49:10.743-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0Parents owe it to their children to instill in them that one does not join the military to travel, receive a “free” education, or get a high-paying job. One joins the military to risk life and limb...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/454598187" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/lack-of-truth-in-military-advertising.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-19921875348008221432008-11-15T14:43:00.007-05:002008-11-15T23:02:14.535-05:002008-11-15T23:02:14.535-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com1Some people tend to go into hiding whenever they get involved in a relationship not worth making public. It is their defense mechanism of choice when their choices are defenseless. However, this...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/454242923" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/bad-relationships-and-good-criticism.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-84169875229330098542008-11-14T09:14:00.011-05:002008-11-17T09:44:54.758-05:002008-11-17T09:44:54.758-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com1If you are like most people, the question in the title of this article prompted you to think about qualities and traits you would like for your dream partner to possess, or perhaps changes you would...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/452989611" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/what-kind-of-relationship-do-you-want.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-69224833876482826862008-11-13T16:46:00.006-05:002008-11-21T14:15:44.455-05:002008-11-21T14:15:44.455-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com2Whenever I speak to a teenager, one of the things I tell them is that they need to be motivated by much more than what their parents or others think, say or do. Indeed, one of the things that should...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/452249662" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/self-interest-is-in-childs-best.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-16885355903061894472008-11-12T17:53:00.007-05:002008-11-15T23:49:07.660-05:002008-11-15T23:49:07.660-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com1I cannot count the number of single parents that I’ve met who are involved with people they claim are good to them but, clearly, are not good for their children. Their partners provide...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/451203620" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/secret-lovers-for-stupid-parents.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-20986515563388173752008-11-10T16:40:00.006-05:002008-11-15T22:55:39.516-05:002008-11-15T22:55:39.516-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com4A friend who’s a single mother once asked my opinion of her dating a “nice” guy that still has quite a bit of “street” in him. She explained that, although he treats her well as his girlfriend, he...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/448856517" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/moms-boyfriend-is-creepy-says-little.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-13270546099012561142008-11-08T21:56:00.007-05:002008-11-15T23:49:41.942-05:002008-11-15T23:49:41.942-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0It is extremely difficult to convince some people that their lovers are not their property. People cannot be property; human beings can only subjugate and oppress other human beings in the name of...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/447063092" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/your-partner-is-not-your-property.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-28056603229015785502008-11-07T02:42:00.003-05:002008-11-15T21:12:28.504-05:002008-11-15T21:12:28.504-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0A domestic violence counselor once told a group of convicted batterers that some of them need to leave their current spouses and lovers. The counselor wasn’t trying to blame the spouses and lovers...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/445221543" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/some-batterers-should-leave-their.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-41262474620152377172008-11-06T13:07:00.004-05:002008-11-15T21:13:44.839-05:002008-11-15T21:13:44.839-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com3As a former batterer, I would never tell anyone to date or marry someone with a past like my own. But this doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t or doesn’t happen. Such changed people deserve to be loved,...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/444625744" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/11/notes-to-current-lovers-of-former.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-39829306773151508202008-10-25T01:09:00.003-04:002008-11-15T23:52:18.146-05:002008-11-15T23:52:18.146-05:00I A M R J . C O Mnoreply@blogger.com0"I am convinced that love is the most durable power in the world. It is not an expression of impractical idealism, but of practical realism. Far from being the pious injunction of a Utopian dreamer,...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/376349072" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2007/01/to-love-is-to-show-that-you-have-some.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-81043673767046997282008-10-14T00:33:00.008-04:002008-11-16T00:04:24.181-05:002008-11-16T00:04:24.181-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0It has been said, “Life’s greatest mystery isn’t the meaning of life. To love and be loved is the meaning of life. Now how to attain those is the greatest mystery of all.” iAMrj * richard jones<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/420194065" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/10/philosophy-of-love.htmlhttp://www.blogger.com/video-play.mp4?contentId=5f774488c5816e63&type=video%2Fmp4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-69833826839021122302008-10-04T11:40:00.007-04:002008-11-15T23:29:31.139-05:002008-11-15T23:29:31.139-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0From the earliest days of democracy in Europe and later here in United States of America, philosophers, politicians and powerful businesspersons clearly recognized the threat of “the tyranny of the...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/411196882" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/10/democracy-needs-bailout-too.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-38255474300581837692008-10-03T12:37:00.006-04:002008-11-15T23:50:23.668-05:002008-11-15T23:50:23.668-05:00I A M R J . C O Mnoreply@blogger.com0My desire for you springs from the inmost recesses of my being and encompasses me like the air snuggled against my flesh. Absent in body, you are present in spirit as a constant companion making...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/410411451" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2007/05/gods-gift-to-your-world.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-18948861287163199282008-10-02T13:43:00.027-04:002008-11-15T23:04:34.718-05:002008-11-15T23:04:34.718-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com5yahooBuzzArticleHeadline = "A father's take on things that matter most";yahooBuzzArticleSummary = "Here's how fathers can strengthen and sustain the greatest partnerships they could ever...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/409493285" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/10/fathers-take-on-things-that-matter-most.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-64223818356327286092008-09-30T16:23:00.005-04:002008-11-15T21:22:30.817-05:002008-11-15T21:22:30.817-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0(NOTE: I wrote this article a couple of years ago but never published it here on iAMrj.com, although in 2006 it was distributed by the pro-feminist listserv margins-to-centre [m2c], which found it...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/407607009" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/09/degendering-daddy.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-38101917052851848162008-09-30T01:25:00.006-04:002008-11-15T21:18:42.772-05:002008-11-15T21:18:42.772-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com1You cannot truly live if you cannot truly live with imperfection. Flaws will follow you from the cradle to the grave, so make of them building blocks rather than allow them to serve only as stumbling...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/242133090" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/02/how-to-be-perfectly-imperfect.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-49607988137814659992008-09-26T02:26:00.005-04:002008-11-16T00:13:05.848-05:002008-11-16T00:13:05.848-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0I'm a techie, so stuff like this news report about “warviewing” also catch my attention: iAMrj * richard jones<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/403505860" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/09/home-invasion-through-wireless-cameras.htmlhttp://www.blogger.com/video-play.mp4?contentId=fea8e7ac6291f2e6&type=video%2Fmp4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-12701147142417000192008-09-24T11:59:00.012-04:002008-11-15T23:30:00.365-05:002008-11-15T23:30:00.365-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0Rep. Marcy Kaptur (D-Ohio) gives an incisive speech about "the latest reality game: 'Let's Play Wall Street Bailout.'" In it, she explains the nefarious rules by which the wealthiest and most...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/401937814" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/09/powerful-rich-people-play-by-these.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-49696641125052415882008-09-15T02:45:00.009-04:002008-11-15T21:21:02.119-05:002008-11-15T21:21:02.119-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com3I opened the door to my home late Friday night and saw the most beautiful woman in the world. She glistened as I fastened my appreciative gaze on her and thought to myself, “What a lucky man!” I...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/392955802" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/09/we-keep-meeting-this-way.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-14092864771821906382008-09-11T04:07:00.003-04:002008-11-15T23:45:53.277-05:002008-11-15T23:45:53.277-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/389447530" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/09/huston-smith-on-things-that-matter-most.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17595903.post-46983559664196473212008-09-10T22:02:00.008-04:002008-11-15T23:56:49.050-05:002008-11-15T23:56:49.050-05:00iAMrj * richard joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01756503018227347175noreply@blogger.com0I don’t follow science news perhaps the way I should, but I couldn’t help noticing the breaking news reports informing the world that scientists have turned on Europe’s Large Hadron Collider, the...<br/> <br/> Please visit www.iAMrj.com to read more.<img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/iamrj/~4/389217632" height="1" width="1"/>http://www.iamrj.com/2008/09/new-machine-to-replicate-beginning-of.html