05 July 2007

10 things men can do to end men's violence against women

  1. Acknowledge and understand how sexism, male dominance and male privilege lay the foundation for all forms of violence against women.
  2. Examine and challenge our individual sexism and the role that we play in supporting men who are abusive.
  3. Recognize and stop colluding with other men by getting out of our socially defined roles, and take a stance to end violence against women.
  4. Remember that our silence is affirming. When we choose not to speak out against men’s violence, we are supporting it.
  5. Educate and re-educate our sons and other young men about our responsibility in ending men’s violence against women.
  6. "Break out of the man box"-- challenge traditional images of manhood that stop us from actively taking a stand to end violence against women.
  7. Accept and own our responsibility that violence against women will not end until men become part of the solution to end it. We must take an active role in creating a cultural and social shift that no longer tolerates violence against women.
  8. Stop supporting the notion that men’s violence against women can end by providing treatment for individual men. Mental illness, lack of anger management skills, chemical dependency, stress, etc... are only excuses for men’s behavior. Violence against women is rooted in the historic oppression of women and the outgrowth of the socialization of men.
  9. Take responsibility for creating appropriate and effective ways to develop systems to educate and hold men accountable.
  10. Create systems of accountability to women in your community. Violence against women will end only when we take direction from those who understand it most, women.
Copyright (c) 2004 A Call To Men, Inc. (ACT Men)

02 July 2007

What's wrong with this picture?

Health officials in Hampton Roads, VA, have launched a "Stop It Now" campaign against child sexual abuse. The campaign features billboards and posters that show a man's hand holding a child's hand, with the words, "It doesn't feel right when I see them together." Right beneath the picture is an 800-number anyone can call if they think they've spotted a sex offender with a child. As a parent, I'm all for protecting and rescuing children from all forms of abuse. Still, I wonder whether the campaign also features a poster that makes it clear that people need to be on the lookout for female child abusers and pedophiles, too. (See the comments section of this blog for the follow-up.)

iAMrj * richard jones